This is a bit of a personal post for me, but I'll try and make it short and simple. Bear with me. As a blogger and a designer, not many people get to see beyond the screen. One of the goals of this blog is to be real and intentional, so here I am.
It's hard to admit that I'm one of the people who tell others they're good enough when a lot of the time I don't even believe that about myself. It's not just about looks or characteristics, it's just simply the fact that you feel as if nothing is ever enough. You run in circles constantly, trying to live up to the expectations in your head.
On my social media pages and blog, I always tell you that you're enough. That you're beautiful and worth it. Which is all true. But there are a lot of days where I cry in front of the mirror because I feel as if the person that I'm looking at could be so much better. Physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally. "Maybe I'm not good enough for him because he deserves the best. Or maybe I need to be strong for them or maybe I just need to be a better best friend." These thoughts run through our heads and then eventually, we burn out because we're trying to become something we can never become. They do deserve your best. But sometimes giving your best is crying and just letting it all out. You don't have to be okay to be your best. And that's something I've struggled with.
It's good to want to improve, but don't do it to prove something to yourself or other people.
Improve. Always. That's extremely important. But why are you doing it? To live up to this level of perfection? You won't ever be that perfect person in your head who always has it all together. There are days where you will sit on the bathroom floor and just sob. Or you scream into a pillow. And that's okay. Your makeup won't be perfect, your life won't be perfect, and that's okay. It's not because of something you did or didn't do, it's simply because life is life. Ups and downs and process are all a part of that. One doesn't come without the other. The fact that life is hard doesn't change your worth. It only defines you if you let it.
I have to remind myself of this every day. It's not even the slightest bit easy, but God has placed people in my life that show me I don't have to be perfect all the time. Find some people like that. People that will see your 3am-not even trying-self and still think you're absolutely stunning. People that know sometimes your best is just to let it all out. People that will stay with you through thick and thin, no matter the circumstance.
Those lies you've believed and those unattainable expectations about yourself, process out of them. I know it's easier said than done and I'm even still working on it. You are good enough. We are good enough. And even if we don't feel like it all the time, it doesn't change the fact. We're gonna be okay, and there is nothing you can or can't do to change that.